The Well |
Over and over, we see in the Torah
the significance of “the well” (be’er) as a meeting place. We first see it with
Avraham’s servant, when he meets Rivka at the well. The theme recurs with
Yaakov, when he encounters Rachel and again with Moshe, when he sees Tzipora
and her sisters and helps them out. Avraham’s servant went to the well
in Padan Aram to water his camels and find a wife for Yitzchak. Yaakov went to
that same well to ask where he could find his family (he had no animals with
him) and shortly after he arrived, Rachel showed up. In Shmot 2:15 we read: “…Moshe
resided in the land of Midian. He sat by the well.” Moshe did not have any
animals or family in Midian so why did he decide to go to the well? Rashi brings the commentary of the
Mechilta on the words “He sat by a well” (Shmot 2:15): Moshe learned from
Yaakov who found his mate at the well. According to Maskil L’David, Moshe
learned from Yaakov that “the well” is “the place” to meet your future wife! Breisheet Rabba explains: Moshe adapted the practice of his
ancestors. Three met their marriage partners at the well- Yitzchak, Yaakov and
Moshe. Yitzchak- as it is written (Breisheet 24:62-63): “And Yitzchak came from
the way of Be’er Lechai Ro’i…And Yitzchak went to meditate in the field…and he
lifted up his eyes and saw and behold camels were coming…” Also Rivka met
Eliezer (the matchmaker) at the well. Yaakov-
(Breisheet 29:2): “And he (Yaakov) looked and behold a well in the field.”
Moshe- “And he sat by a well.” It is interesting to note that
although Moshe was a wanted man who ran away from Egypt, he was willing to go
to the well, the most public place in order to try to find a match the way that
his forefathers did. Ibn Ezra explains that it was called
“HaBe’er,” “The well” since it was the only well in the area. When Moshe was ready to get married,
he thought back to how his forefathers met their wives and followed in their
footsteps. Today as well, we need to create
meeting places like “the well” where those interested in getting married can
find their bashert (destined match). |