Be wary of those who lay it on too thick |
In memory of Dorothy and Harry DuBrow on their yahrzeits In Parshat Vayishlach, Esav seems overly excited about being reunited
with his brother Yaakov who he has not seen for twenty years. This is
surprising since they did not part on good terms. In Parshat Toldot, after
Yitzchak blessed Yaakov (Breisheet 27:41) “Esav
hated Yaakov because of the blessing with which his father blessed him. Esav
said in his heart, ‘The mourning days for my father are approaching. I will
then kill my brother, Yaakov.’” We read how excited Esav is to see
Yaakov in Breisheet 33:4, “Esav ran to meet him. He hugged him and fell on his
neck and kissed him. They both wept.” Many of the words used here to
describe Esav’s behavior remind us of other emotional family reunions in the
Torah. Nehama Leibowitz brings Benno Jacob’s list of similar meetings in the
Torah: Yaakov and Rachel: (Breishet 29:11) “And
Yaakov kissed Rachel and lifted up his voice and wept.” Yosef and Binyamin: (Breisheet
45:14) “And he (Yosef) fell on the neck of Binyamin, his brother and wept and
Binyamin wept upon his neck.” Yaakov and Yosef: (Breisheet 46:29) “And
Yosef harnessed his chariot, and went up to greet his father, Yisrael in Goshen.
When he appeared before him, he fell on his neck, and wept on his neck for a
long time.” Moshe and Aharon: (Shmot 4:27) “God
said to Aharon, ‘Go meet Moshe in the desert.’ He (Aharon) went and met him at
the mountain of God and he kissed him.” Benno Jacob explains that the
description of Esav’s running, embracing, falling, kissing and weeping is
suspect. Yaakov can see through Esav. He does not believe that Esav is genuine
and parts ways with him. In all of the other cases, which
were sincere reunions, one, two or three of the verbs were used. In Esav’s case
all five were used! We can learn from here that it is
best to be upfront and honest. Someone who puts on an act will be regarded as
suspect. There is no reason to lay it on so thick! |