Keeping in mind the fertility challenged at the Seder |
In memory of Beatrice Landsman z”l When reading the Haggada, we come
across the verse from Shmot 1:7 which describes the growth of the nation: “The
children of Israel were fruitful (paru) and swarmed (va-yishretzu),
multiplied (va-yirbu) and grew (va-yaatzmu) more and more
(bimeod meod). The whole land was filled with them.” Rashbam differentiates between each
of the verbs: Paru: “they were fruitful” in pregnencies; va-yishretzu: “they
swarmed” with live births since tiny creatures are described as swarming on the
ground; va-yirbu: “they increased” in size, the small grew bigger and
did not die in infancy; va-yaatzmu: “they grew” and did not die but were
numerous and became very powerful. In Midrash Lekach Tov, Rabbi Hiyya
teaches that the verse emphasizes the extraordinary nature of this population
explosion: Every daughter of Israel would give birth to six corresponding to
the six terms: Paru, va-yishretzu, va-yirbu, va-yaatzmu, bimeod meod. The seder is set up as a family
oriented ritual focused on the concept of “you shall teach your children” with
the Ma Nishtana (Four Questions) recited by the youngest child, the discussion
of the Four Children, the different activities which keep the children
interested culminating with the search for the Afikoman etc. It can be
challenging for couples who are suffering from infertility to feel part of this. In the Haggada, there is also the
aspect of hope for the fertility challenged. B’nai Yisrael multiplied despite
Pharaoh’s decrees, the midwives saved the baby boys, Pharaoh’s daughter adopted
Moshe and raised him as her own. While enjoying our own seders, when
we recite the verse from Shmot 1:7, let’s keep in mind those who are fertility
challenged and let’s pray that their wishes come true, that their fertility issues
will be resolved and that they be blessed with healthy children as the
Israelites were in Egypt. |